Lately I’ve been thinking about friendship. As of today I have 750 “friends” on good ol’ Facebook. Until recently I had 752. I “unfriended” one who made inappropriate comments on my updates. Who needs that?! Not I.
And someone “unfriended” me. I have no clue who it was. Although to be honest, I did spend about 5 minutes trying to figure it out! You know, I checked those who differ with me on politics, religious beliefs and the Chik-fil-A flap. Dead ends – all.
In our modern tech-savvy world of social networking I find I communicate more with people I’ve never met face to face than with friends or acquaintances who live in my own community. And that is why I want to be more intentional in my face to face interaction. Face to face, you get that subtle or not so subtle nuance of speech. There is less opportunity for misunderstanding. When something is said, especially surrounding controversy, you have a context in which to understand someone when you’ve already shared a meal or two.
With that in mind, recently I initiated “Lunch Ladies.” I put the word out – using social media – that I’d like to meet friends once a month for lunch. I describe it as having “fun and food with friends on Fridays.”
No agenda. Just lunch.
Sometimes when it comes to making friends and keeping friends, simple works the best. We had our first “Lunch Ladies” lunch last week. No laptops, no phones pulling up fb or twitter or email. Just real live ladies sharing a table and eating tacos.
And talking. Not typing.
(And just so we’re clear…no hairnets were harmed – or worn- in our “Lunch Ladies” experiment.)
Following are a few of my thoughts on friendship ~
“Let’s Just Be Friends”
Let’s just be friends.
You don’t have to do me a favor or pay me back.
No need to stroke my ego or tell me what you think I want to hear.
I don’t want to ride your coattails and I’m not looking for your networking connections.
Let’s just be friends.
You don’t have to buy what I’m selling. That’s okay with me.
I don’t need you to help me see the “other side of the coin.”
Just have my back. I’ll have yours.
Let’s be honest and kind. We don’t have to make a pledge to that; let’s just do it on the honor system.
Instead of viewing one another for what we can do for one another,
let’s just be friends.
© 2012 Melanie Dorsey
Tell me what you think. Are you intentional about making and maintaining your real life friendships?